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Amira's Story
Listen to Amira talk about her experience finding a home at UMass. In her story, Amira shares the struggles of connecting at UMass and how sitting in RSO room on campus started to become more than just a place to do work but somewhere she met people who have become her close friends.
Growing up, I never had a real sense of home. My parents immigrated from another country and they had to redo their training for their jobs and they were kind of just being placed wherever they were put for residency. So, I was just constantly moving from one state to another for their training, and never stayed in one place long enough to put down roots and make lasting friendships. Every time we moved I had to start all over again and it was exhausting. I remember the first time in the US, I was only six years old and we just moved from Saudi Arabia and moved to Ohio, and it just felt like a completely different world. I didn’t know anyone and I felt so out of place and I was learning English. All I think about was my friends back in Saudi Arabia and the familiarity of my old home. We moved several more times after that: Arkansas, Massachusetts, and now in Long Island. Each time we moved, it was for my parents’ jobs. They were both doctors and they had to redo their training once they came to America. I understood why we had to move, but that didn’t make it any easier. By the time I got to college, I was used to the idea of not having any real friends or connections. I was just there to get my degree and move on with my life. But things didn’t quite work out that way. I had some bad experiences with friendships before. I’d make friends with someone only to have them turn on me or something like that. It was disheartening, and I started to feel like maybe there was something wrong with me. But then I discovered the RSO room. There’s this room in my school’s student union and it stands for: registered student organization room. It’s basically supposed to serve for all the clubs on campus. For them to meet there and kinda hold their supplies there. Initially, one of the clubs that I joined, it was like a cultural club, a lot of people from there just started hanging out in this room to do homework and I remember being intimidated to go into this room cause it was just like these friends and like it was for studying but everyone was just kinda hanging out and talking and stuff like that. So I’d always avoid this room but I’d always want to go in. So little by little I would hang out in there sometimes, take a friend with me, maybe stop by, but I would never do anything too extreme. But eventually I started going to the RSO room more often and I would just keep seeing familiar faces all the time. And we started to hang out and get lunch and become friends and the RSO room just kind of became more than just this room for student organizations. So I think that was one of the first times where I felt like I formed that community and found that community on campus because it was insane like no matter what time of the day, if you go after your classes, if you go for lunch whatever, like there’s going to be at least five people in that room. It kind of reminded me of like some shows I would watch, like I know in Boy Meets World there’s always this one place in college where everyone would go to hang out and I just thought that was just like a TV thing or a movie thing but like I had that own thing with me and my friends. Like I credit a lot of my friendships to the RSO room because these are the people I’ve like celebrated my birthday with. These are people I go to concerts with. I’ve gone to New York with them and it was literally all just from seeing them often to go study everyday and just eventually kind of realizing we have more in common than we think. It was just such a relief because before that I was like really struggling to find my people on campus. I saw this like quote the other day and it said something about home is the place where people notice when you’re gone. And, like when I don’t go or when I’m sick or I have a lot of work, my friends will be like “Where are you, when are you coming?” blah blah blah. And that feeling is just, it’s so amazing. Like to feel like my presence matters and like I’m missed and all that stuff. It’s just been a great thing, and I, I recommend it to anyone who’s like looking to make friends. I’m like “just come to the RSO room like five times and you’ll be best friends with everyone.”